When people think of heartbreak they automatically think of someone breaking your heart in a romantic way. We tend to forget that anyone who’s close to you has the ability to hurt and break you.
I recently went through a scenario where I was heartbroken in every way imaginable. The question that kept running through my head was, who was responsible for this pain becoming close to unbearable? Was it the romantic connection I had at the time or was it those people I thought always had my back?
I took a long time deciding whether I wanted to write about this or not. Whether I wanted to allow everyone into my life or not. To be honest, I have gotten over all the feelings I had, and am no longer writing this from a position of the victim. I felt that by writing this I might be helping someone who just needs someone to relate to.
My best friend Erika told me that I am one of the best people she knew, and if certain people didn’t want to stay in my life, there wasn’t anything I could do about it. She even went as far to say that it’s for the best, and that those people don’t deserve to be in my life.
When she first told me this, I took it a little hard. I’m one of those people that always blame themselves whenever something doesn’t go right in my life. “Why am I not good enough? Why did this happen to me? What did I do to deserve this? Why couldn’t I make them stay?”.
These mindsets are so dangerous and really lead to self-hatred and low self-esteem. You, as an individual, have to realize that if you are trying your best and people don’t stick around the way you expected them to, it’s not you. There is nothing you did wrong in order to make these people walk away. No one’s perfect and if you tried your best, there is nothing more you can ask of yourself.
Don’t torture yourself by dwelling on something that you can no longer change. As cliche as it sounds, you can’t change the past. The best thing you can do is continue to improve yourself as an individual and concentrate on those who stick around.
Maybe everything that I’ve been saying has spoken to you on a deep level, and if it does, regardless of how you’ve been heartbroken, realize that you are strong. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for. You will overcome any hardships you go through and will come out better in the longrun. At this moment in time, you may not realize why this is happening to you, but I promise you that in a few months or even years, you will look back and be happy that this difficult time has happened.
As always sending you love, strength, and positivity.